Neurokin Consulting and Community Care

For those seeking kinship, warmth, and understanding in a world where belonging has felt elusive

about

I am a creative, a nature-lover, an autist, a fierce advocate for those who are marginalized, a being full of love and grief and rage. Neuroqueer abolitionist, enby and pretty chill. (Note that I go by Ellis Moray, but you will see my old name Elizabeth Ponds in some places as I have not changed it legally yet)

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Offerings

  1. Charlotte, NC area monthly in-person Autistic peer social group for ages 18+ (In Chantilly neighborhood and sign up required to receive address)

2. Neuro-affirming, 2SLGBTQIA+ celebratory, decolonial virtual consultations with peers 18+ who resonate with what they know about me (this might mean you’re autistic, nonbinary/agender, demisexual, queer, have OCD, are 2e, have a neurodivergent child, hate genocidal Empires, love trees, etc.)

3. Neuro-affirming, 2SLGBTQIA+ celebratory, decolonial virtual consultations with professional peers (see #10 below)

Consultation topics I can help with

  1. Education/information about the autistic body-mind from a holistic (non-clinical) perspective with resources/visuals as needed (I can discuss the intersection of this with attention differences, trauma, obsessive thought patterns, etc.)
    • Being autistic is a normal body-mind variation in humans, not a disorder/diagnosis, although many autistic people are disabled. I believe in self-identification. I believe disability is a neutral word. I believe what you know about yourself, and I especially love to help people deconstruct harmful beliefs around their existence.
    • Educators and healthcare professionals are welcome to seek insight on specific situations that they’re navigating (not as a replacement for clinical supervision but as insight from a lived experience peer), and I am happy to also share resources and further reading pertinent to your needs
  2. Aiding you in determining life goals and how best to accommodate your needs to reach these goals or switch focus
    • Maybe you’re trying to cook more meals during the week but are unable to task-switch
    • Maybe you’re trying to go to college for the first or second time but don’t know where to start
    • Maybe you’re wanting to tell your family or partner/s that you’re autistic but don’t know how or if you even should
    • Maybe you’re trying to decide whether to get diagnosed by a psychologist or apply for disability
    • Maybe you’re trying to determine how to connect with your community and contribute to human rights movements as a disabled person who is part of a neuro-minority
  3. Explanations for why the allistic-dominated world is the way it is (workplace dynamics, context-switching, friendships, interviews, school, lack of empathy for autistics)
  4. Translation of allistic-autistic-ADHD communication (in real-time or afterward)
    • Assessing breakdowns in communication, addressing the double-empathy problem, explaining integral neurotype differences, and co-creating a plan of improvement
    • Autistics and ADHDers have social skills too, so there is no “social skills training”
    • Healthy communication habits and skills can be included in this if desired
  5. Assessing need for specific resources and providing pertinent ones (health-related, autism/adhd related, trauma-related, suggestions for providers in your area, research etc.)
  6. Scripting for phone calls and/or being with you as you make the call to help with advocacy and verbal communication
  7. Providing education and discussing specific needs around the intersection of autism and asexuality/aromanticism (relationships, sensory struggles, self-understanding, etc.)
  8. Providing education/insight on intersection of IPV/DV and autism (vulnerabilities, abuse dynamics, communication, social isolation, DARVO)
  9. Providing education on intersection of autistic tendency for monotropism/commitment to values and tendency to fall prey to cults or any type of fundamentalism
  10. Consultations with therapists, educators, social workers, or other professionals who are working directly with autistic clients, ADHDer clients, gifted clients, asexual/aromantic spectrum clients, and transgender/nonbinary/agender clients.

Disclaimers/Notes

  1. If you are a prior or present therapy client, I am not able to also be your consultant/peer due to boundaries around dual relationships that are within the ASWB’s Code of Ethics and requirements, since I am an LCSW. You are welcome to reach out for a referral at any time though.
  2. I do not offer anything that would fall into the realm of mental health therapy here – diagnosing, using a specific modality like DBT or ACT, treatment planning, billing insurance, safety planning, crisis intervention, etc. I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who reports to the NC Social Work Certification and Licensure Board.
    1. I am a telehealth therapist separately at Healing Arts Collaborative, and if you are interested in this, please click here.
    2. Note that I still use my birth name as a therapist until I am able to legally change it.
  3. On a case-by-case basis, I will offer tailored educational presentations for various organizations (not those who are training AI) centered around the autistic experience, agender/nonbinary experience, or the ace/aro communities – Rates will vary and be higher than the consulting work I do. Requests must be sent at least 45 days in advance of the presentation.
  4. I am unable to offer clinical supervision to LCSWAs in NC until September 2026